On account of it being my birthday and all, I thought I’d post some of the random and supremely dumb things I’ve thought over the years.
1. When I was young, I thought the tv paused when you turned it off. I was always so confused when I came back and something new was on.
2. For whatever…
When I was young I thought that when someone got locked in one of the rooms in The Crystal Maze, unless their friends forfeited a crystal later in the game to come back and rescue them, they would be stuck in there FOREVER. I legitimately used to panic when they decided to keep the crystal instead and go to bed wondering how anyone could possibly be that mean.
Such a good TV programme.
OMG I thought the same thing about the Crystal Maze! And Knightmare. I was always incredibly sad when the kids got stuck somewhere because I thought it meant they’d never see their parents again.
It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.
Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.